The assumption is that if you appear to be a challenge for your date, he or she will be that much more interested in you, and is guaranteed to pursue you.
We get the allure of the chase, and wanting to feel attractive and intriguing, but this scheme rarely works well, and here's why: When you "play it cool," your date may get the message that you're: a) uninterested b) unavailable c) afraid of intimacy d) untrustworthy e) too much work! Worse yet, if you aren't convincingly aloof, you'll just come off as silly and inauthentic.
What happens to relationships when finding a date is as easy as requesting a ride or ordering take-out?
We certainly love the idea of having endless options but do they leave us less satisfied with the person (or pizza, for that matter) that we ultimately select?
Profiles are usually quite extensive: letting you introduce yourself (anecdotal evidence suggests 90 percent of profiles begin with, "I'm not very good at this sort of thing…" or "I'm not sure why I'm here"), and prompting you to answer essay-type questions about your job, hobbies, and ideal relationship.
Most popular websites today, like e Harmony, Ok Cupid, and Match.com, feature quizzes, which ostensibly help line you up with your soul mate.
They surveyed a group of about 100 undergrads, who said they were interested in meeting a partner through online dating.
The group thought they were helping researchers test a new dating app.
The basics of online dating are pretty straightforward.
One week later, students were asked to rate their satisfaction with the potential partner they selected.
Those who picked from a larger group rated less satisfaction with their choice. Although studies have shown that having more options leaves people feeling less secure in the choice they ultimately make, researchers haven’t come up with a definitive reason.
People create profiles, which they fill with basic physical and personality traits in the hope of getting matched up with someone who is looking for that particular mix, while hoping that they find satisfaction themselves in the person concerned.
It's rare for this to be the only thing a website will want its users to do, though.