): The Jesus Lovin’ Guy There’s definitely a difference between a “God-fearing” man, and a Jesus-loving man.
When a man is in love with Jesus, you can tell, because it overflows out of everything he says, and does – and impacts how he lives his life.
Fit Chivalrous Charming Ambitious Tall Creative You like the fictional person that we’re putting together? Maybe he’s got 17 out of 18 qualities, except he’s… It’s not that any of these desires are unimportant. Do you always find fault in the men you’re dating and dream that somewhere out there is a man who gives you everything on your ever-expanding list? My 60-year-old, twice divorced client, Katherine, did the same thing for many years. Every time my client would go on a date with him, she would have fun. And I like to wear boots so that doesn’t work for me.” Okay, I told her.
It’s that, no matter what, you’re ALWAYS going to find a deal breaker. She’d most recently had her heart broken by a charming, but commitment-phobic man from Match.com, and she turned to me for guidance through the dating process. And then she’d complain on the phone that he wasn’t what she was looking for.
I don’t blame you for a second, and I’m not going to tell you which things you should give up in order to find the man of your dreams.
What I will do today is illustrate to you how even your simplest list of non-negotiable dealbreakers is the very thing that is keeping you from finding love.
It’s a New Year and time for a new outlook on dating.Take it from a guy who has a pretty high sense of self-esteem and wanted a woman who was his equal and more: holding onto the idea of a person prevents you from seeing the real person inside. Even though I’m not a big advocate of lists, I think an ideal mate checklist can be a useful exercise and teaching tool. 🙂 You want a man who is: Attractive Honest Intelligent Kind Funny Financially Stable This is entirely normal. You can’t go out with a guy you can literally see eye-to-eye with. It just doesn’t make you feel feminine or turned-on. You know what it’s like to feel lust and you just don’t feel it with him. It’s a fact that most of us have checklists describing the qualities of our ideal mate. I’m not going to say whether this is a good thing or a bad thing. When you’ve been on the planet for close to 40 years, you probably have a pretty good idea about what you’re looking for in a man.